One thing I’ve found is that women are ready for marriage before men are-usually anyway. Be patient ladies, he should come around.
In my own love story, I was ready for marriage, engagement, a promise ring, ANYTHING to signify forward motion, and none of that was even on his mind. He was comfortable in our 5 year old dating relationship and was enjoying the college life. When guys are in a good, comfortable place, it can be hard to move them, even if it’s to a better place.
We ended up having a heart to heart one night where I found out he wasn’t at all thinking about the next step and I was ready for the ring! In between tears (I’m a very emotional being) I wondered aloud what we were doing after five years of dating (ok we started dating Freshman year of high school, but still it was time.) when everyone including family approved and openly talked about us marrying, and if he thought we weren’t going to marry, then we shouldn’t be dating anyway.
Well that conversation woke him up and that summer I got a ring and we’ve been married for nearly 2 years.
Sometimes it is important to have a dtr (define the relationship) talk to make sure you are both on the first page. This doesn’t have to be a scary thing- if you are scared of loosing them should you be with them anyway?
At the same time ladies, it’s okay to slow down and just enjoy the moment.
Enjoy dating, enjoy the extra freedom with girlfriends, have fun! You’ll look back fondly on these days so make them memorable.
“A Lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.” -Pride&Prejudice
